Sometimes, I find people are incredibly understanding.
Take the friend whose birthday party I'm going to tonight.
The invitation came with the offer of a bed for the night, so I wouldn't have to try to get home tired. Then, since the party's in Brisbane and I live in Ipswich, my friend asked someone who's coming from further away to provide transport for me.
We're going very early, so the lady who is driving can help set up and I can have a rest before the other guests arrive.
So my friend not only invited me to her party, but organised transport and accommodation and took into account rest times.
I'm very blessed to have people who are this understanding in my life. My hope, and prayer for other lupies is that you also have such wonderful friends who understand what lupus is like, and make it easier for you to join in celebrations and other "normal" activities.